In class, we discussed the promotion of a positive relationship. The main idea is that the good in any relationship is the key to a long positive relationship. As talked about in class the red cape is getting rid of the bad and the green cape is promoting the good (finely,2020). In this blog post, I will be talking about my relationship with my parents how it is now and how I will incorporate the green cape in our relationship. My dad goes to work Monday – Thursday with Fridays off and weekends, occasionally getting called in when they need him on the job. He works as a lineman for the city of Azusa. My mom works for Whittier college as a secretary, she works Monday – Friday 9 – 4;30 based on the school schedule. I have great respect for both my mom and dad as they work hard to put me through school and provide for the things I need to succeed. With the idea of the green cape and red cape, I find myself leaning towards the promotion of good when it comes to my actions towards my relationship with my parents. In order to make my parents happy I bring nothing but a good attitude and mindset to the house. This sets the mood for my parents knowing that I am doing good not only for myself but for our family. I say good morning every chance I get, I say goodnight every chance I get, I hug and kiss followed by an I love you every chance I get. This creates a positive energy that needs to belong in the house. I have the potential to please my dad by cleaning the yard, taking out the trash and doing what needs to be done to keep the house looking nice. To please my mom I wash the dishes, vacuum the carpet, sweep the floors, and keep the inside looking nice. I do this because if they are happy then I am happy.
There will never be a dull moment in our relationship, each time spent with them is special and never taking what they say or do to me for granted. I love to savor the moment when it means the most like doing things as a family especially when my younger and older brother is over. As I look back at what my parents do for me and the family I have the utmost respect for them expressing my gratitude any way I can. There are a few things I can fix within our relationship that I have learned in class. The actions of showing greater thanks and compassion toward our relationship can definitely shift the tide toward how we feel and do for one another. With the interviews of today’s class activity, I saw that having good communication was a key objective in having a great relationship. So going forward I will start to incorporate a stringer communication with my parents and family sharing my green cape to others and proving them with the same knowledge of what it means to have a great relationship no matter who it’s with.
A Gift to Give 
I feel the same way about my parents as you do yours because I know they have sacrificed a lot for me and I want to provide them with the best version of myself to show respect and repay them in the only way I can. My question to you is with having greater communication with your parents do you think you will be the one benefitting the most or will they appreciate it more, and how will that affect your guys’ relationship?
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having a good communication between them both would be benefitting mostly my parents providing them with securiety knowing that im asafe and alive, gaining trust as well.
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It was awesome to see how dedicated you are to filling your household with a positive energy. I am sure it means a lot to your parents that you acknowledge them in the morning and at night. What is something that you plan on thanking each of your parents for?
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my whole life I will forver be in debt with there love and what they do for me. In my eyes I thank my dad for how he made me to be tough and become a man learning to do things on my own. I thank my mom for what it mean to be polite, how to dress, how to clean, and what it means to love.
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Great blog post! I really enjoyed reading it, and it’s clear that you love your parents and truly promote wearing a green cape all the time, even in class. I especially admire how hard you work at home to maintain your positive relationship through actions directly towards them as well as just around the house (i.e. keeping it clean). My question for you would be, which response style from the reading/lecture do you find yourself using the most when talking to your parents?
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good question! growing up just like us all I was a bit defiant when it came to responding to my parents because of puberty and me trying to really find myself. I soon learned later that in order to succeed i nned to have a high effort with the motivation to succeed. in other words I became compliant.
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Thanks for sharing! I found it surprising to see how affectionate and appreciative you are toward and for your parents as I feel like other individuals our age tend to shy away from that in attempts to prove to their parents, self, and peers that they are strong and independent. Something that I agree with you on is that each moment spent, actions done, or something said with parents or other loved ones should never be taken for granted. Personally, I feel like life has so many surprises that one may never know what is going to happen, therefore one should genuinely appreciate and enjoy all the times you have with those you care the most. What type of things would you recommend to anyone who is struggling to bring a positive energy to their homes and/or struggling to cherish the little moments with their parents or other loved ones?
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life is inevitable and you never know when or how a loved one will pass away. I alwies think about a life without them and that alwaies make me think about how much i need them and love them. I wuldent be the man I am today without my parents/ family so really just think about how you would have turnned out withiut them.
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Hi Garret! Let me start by saying I really liked your post and I liked that you chose your parents to write about. When it comes to which cape you wear most often, I would agree that I wear the green cape more with my relationship with my parents. I was curious in what way would you try to improve your communication with them?
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I alwies had good communication with them but i woud say now that im older and on my own i would lie to call them more often just to check in and make sure im doing good.
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